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一聽到讚美就心慌?這樣並不是謙虛,是太過要求完美

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你有沒有遇過一種人「很怕別人讚美」,就是只要一聽到別人讚美他,他第一表現不是開心,而是急著否認!其實這樣的表現並不是謙虛,久了可能還會讓人反感…

「你的英文說得真是太棒了!」表姐在眾親戚面前誇獎我,十幾雙帶著讚許目光的眼睛紛紛看過來。我渾身感到不自在,不知道該往哪裡看,身體也熱了起來。


「你的發音跟外國人真的沒有絲毫差別,你太厲害了!真不愧是多年留學在外的人,好羡慕哦。」表姐又說。


唉,他們才聽我講一句,當然覺得我厲害啦。我在外留學這麼多年,學來的也不過這樣能騙騙外行人的三腳貓功夫,好心虛。我的身體更熱了,不知道該怎麼回應,道謝也不是,只好說:「沒有,我的英文真的很爛。」眾人笑說我謙虛。


真煩,能不能別再誇獎我了?--路人甲日記


在亞洲

人人注重「謙虛」的美德

人們似乎把「接受讚美」和「驕傲」劃上等號,使得很多人面對讚美時,容易會不好意思接受。


但即便在同樣的文化裡,有些人嘴巴上不接受,心裡還是美滋滋的,希望對方多說一點;有些人則是嘴巴上不接受,心裡也很窘迫,希望對方不要再說了--後者便是「無法接受別人讚美」的人。

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一聽到別人的讚美,他就心慌,心裡產生抗拒,不知情的人還以為他聽到的不是讚美而是批評。這種反應,有幾種可能:

第一

他知道自己做得很好,本來就有些期待得到別人的讚美,而當別人真的讚美他了,他又害怕別人是看穿了自己的期待,這很丟人!


大概是小時候為他人的讚美而愉悅時曾被大人挖苦過「看你高興成這樣,一點出息也沒有!」等等,而當時無法正確判斷自己並沒有真的因此而沒出息,於是「因為受到讚美而開心,是一件丟臉的事情」的想法便陪著自己長大。


實際上,想要受到肯定並不是什麼可恥的事情,它再自然不過了,差別只在於是否有勇氣坦率地表現出愉悅。


第二

這種人往往對自己的要求太高。

有了突出表現後,旁人認為他很優秀,他卻愧不敢當,怕自己已是黔驢技窮,接受了別人的讚美就是承認自己符合他的說法,那麼有一天若他發現「高估」了我,就會笑我自不量力;他害怕面對別人暗地裡產生「原來也不過如此而已嘛!」這種帶點輕視意味的感想。


然而,很多時候別人的要求根本沒有當事人高。他們誇人時,心裡對他能力的估計遠遠低於他所想像的。因此,就算有一天做了自認對不起旁人讚美的事,旁人很可能根本不會因此而失望,只因他們從一開始就沒把他想得那麼好。


即便別人確實高估了他,既然背負別人過高的期望讓人那麼沉重,早點讓別人發現自己的真實程度有什麼不好呢?

你所需要做的,只是放下這種矛盾的貪心和負擔,微笑接受別人的讚美,若真的發生表現不如他們預期的情況,不要急著挽回或解釋什麼,一樣微笑度過。起初也許還需要咬咬牙才能忍住那種慌張的衝動,但久而久之你會發現自己活得自在很多,因為你不再需要為別人任意的崇拜負責。


第三

他懷疑別人的讚美只是客套話,若表現出高興的樣子會顯得過於天真,成為別人眼中的笨蛋。如果對方是說真心話,這種顧慮自然是多餘的。不僅如此,別人那麼佩服,他卻一副覺得小菜一碟的模樣,只會顯得高傲。

至於那些並非真心的人,既然只是說場面話,無論是接受還是否認,他們也只會把你的反應當成遊戲的一部分,不會因為你的抗拒而佩服你,或因你的接受而笑話你。


而那些少數的會因此把你看作傻瓜的人,他們的人生無趣到需要從這般兒戲中獲得樂趣,也就不必和他們一般見識了吧。

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無法接受讚美

從表象來看像謙虛

其實是太追求「完美」

因而對自己也對他人挑三揀四——我的能力不夠好所以不配得到你的讚美,你的話不知誠不誠懇所以不配被我接受,他沒什麽水平所以我才不屑為他給出的讚美開心。


是的,我進行嚴格把關

只為符合條件的讚美微笑!

天啊,這一條通往快樂的路好困難重重啊。一般人對你的讚美,沒有你想得那麽深層,拒絕被讚美不會讓人對你刮目相看,你還錯過很多飄飄然的好心情,只因太苛刻。


真的犯不著活得這麼累

「你好棒哦!真羨慕你!」沈住氣。微笑。「謝謝喔!」簡單多了。


真心讚美別人,坦然接受別人的讚美,你會更自信。

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